Dancing for Memories Caregivers Connect

I am the caregiver to my adult daughter with Down Syndrome. What brought me to this group though is for the last year and a half my dad has shown significant signs of some type of dementia. He has not been diagnosed yet. My sister and I live 4 hours away from him. My brother lives in the same area as my dad but also has young children and is very busy. It’s been so hard trying to figure out what to do to help him when he is so far away. He lives in a apartment by himself. We dont know what to do with him to keep him safe. He isn’t making good choices as far as money, his diet, and he keeps seeing things. He thinks somone comes through the wall and moves his fridge, trying to steal it. He has called the cops before. He makes too much money to get IHSS but not sure he makes enough to live in a assisted living facility. My siblings and I don’t know what to do. This has been heartbreaking and so stressful!